May 27, 2009
Staying Calm: Some Love and Logic Tips
Posted by JL
Hello YNCC Blog readers,
I read a variety of parenting and marriage books, articles, and web sites. Love and Logic is a sound parenting website. From my own personal parenting experience as well as listening to parents come to me for wisdom I see the ability to stay calm and centered (in Christ) is a key skill in parenting (and in any relationship). I thought these 3 points are excellent ways to begin to make a habit of remaining calm in chaotic situations. Please share your thoughts in the comments section.
Warmly,
John Loppnow
Avoiding frustration, anger, lectures, and other ineffective parenting practices is no simple task in today’s hectic world. Fortunately, the following steps can help us “brainwash” ourselves into staying cool in hot situations:
Step #1: Create one calming self-statement.
Everyone needs a calming thought to carry with them as they navigate this not-so-calm world. Listed below are some examples:
Anger makes it worse.
Anger and frustration feed misbehavior.
Frustration fuels the fire.
Empathy instead of anger.
My kids will someday select my nursing home.
Step #2: Post your statement where you’ll see it often.
The more often you see your statement, the more likely it will pop into your head when your kids are getting on your last nerve. It’s great for them to see them it too!
Step #3: Visualize yourself staying calm and using your statement.
Each night as you are falling asleep, imagine yourself in a tough parenting situation with your children…and handling it without breaking a sweat!
Thanks for reading!
Dr. Charles Fay
http://www.loveandlogic.com/
Comments
“my kids will someday select my nursing home”?!
LOL!!
Posted by toolizzit2quit on May 29, 2009
Yeah, that gets a lot of comments.
Personally, i think this is very helpful for all of us in terms of dealing with anger/irritation.
What do you think?
Posted by Pastor John Loppnow on May 29, 2009
the method of reiterating a simple statement to remind ourselves to stay calm is logical, but the nursing home comment might not be one that is rooted from love, perhaps? i like the other ones tho.
Posted by toolizzit2quit on May 30, 2009
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